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בר מצוה ובת מצוה

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מי אנחנו

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כתבו אלינו

What is an Israeli ceremony?

The roots of secular Judaism in Israel originate in the Second Aliya, 40 years before the founding of the State of Israel. Secularism is a common and most widespread way of life throughout Israel, and it focuses on freedom of thought, freedom of choice, responsibility for action and outcome, social involvement and equality between men and women. In secular Israeli ceremonies the focus is on the human being, traditional Jewish ceremonies are studied and examined to clarify their authentic meaning to the person, his or her family and community. Alongside with traditional Jewish texts, the Jewish secular ceremony makes use of contemporary texts, poetry, literature, music etc.

A birth of a child (Brit)

The secular Israeli ceremony of “Brit” is identical for newborn boys and girls. It includes the announcement of the newborn's name and blessings by family and freinds. The circumcision for boys may or may not be included (some parents prefer the circumcision to be done by experts in a medical clinic, apart from the party). Ceremony is planned and designed by the family, together with the Institiue's master of ceremonies. Contemporary music, poetry and text are often included.

Bar Mitzva and Bat Mitzva

A secular Bar Mitzva or Bat Mitzva ceremony is centered around the growing free choice vs. responsibility of the youth. It encourages them to inquire their own concept of independence, and to widen their participation in community social life. The ceremony is planned and designed by the Institute's master of ceremonies together with the family and the boy or the girl. They study together their "Parashat Hashavua" and discuss its meaning. In addition to studying the text, the boy or girl are encouraged to plan and carry out a series of tasks, expressing their growing free choice, responsibility and involvement in the community social life. Ceremonies include reading the Parasha, telling about the tasks performed, and contemporary texts, and music. The audience is encouraged to take part in the ceremony. Any element of the traditional Bar Mitzva ceremony can be included or discarded, according to choice.

Marriage

TEKES - Israeli ceremonies, answers the need of a growing number of young secular Israelies, who do not wish to marry through the Rabbinate but would nonetheless like a Jewish ceremony with its familiar traditional symbols and benedictions.

The secular wedding ceremony is not as yet recognized for registration of marriage by the State of Israel and is complementary to civil ceremonies performed abroad or to legal life partnership agreements.

The secular wedding ceremony is planned and designed by the couple, together with the master of ceremonies, who meets with them, learns together with them of the Jewish traditions of wedding ceremonies and how it developed to our day. Together they design the ceremony, its content and its frame. The secular wedding ceremony retains most of the known ceremonials, including the Chupah, the wedding canopy, sanctification over the wine, exchange of rings, the Ketubah marriage contract, the breaking of the glass and the seven benedictions (SHEVA BRACHOT). When planning the ceremony, the couple discusses each of the ceremonials to find out its meaning for them, and they are allowed to change, omit or add to them and fit the ceremony to their beliefs. In many secular weddings the Ktuba traditional text is changed, so as to express equality between the man and the woman: Instead of the groom buying the bride, partners declare their equal commitment to each other. The canopy can be designed with a unique decoration, the breaking of the glass can be changed according to ancient Jewish traditions, and contemporary songs, poems and other text can be included. We also encourage the couple to design the ceremony so that the audience can actively participate by speeches, performance of music, dance and so on.

Burial ceremonies

TEKES does not offers secular burial ceremonies. We recommend that you inquire about them in www.aleyshalechet.co.il

Prices
(The following prices are for the ceremony alone. For the cost of a ceremony + tour write us with more information about the number of participants and desired program:
office@tekes.co.il)

Wedding ceremony - NIS 1650-2300

This includes: one or two meetings with the master of ceremonies, assistance with ideas how to enrich the cremony and achieve the audience involvement, the Ketubah and the perforamnce of the ceremony.

Bar Mitzva or Bat Mitzva - NIS 2350
This includes up to 5 meetings with the boy or the girl. If meetings are held at the family home, the ceremony holder's travel expenses should be added.

Birth ceremony - NIS 1350
This includes: one meeting with the family to plan the ceremony, and leading the ceremony at the Brit party.

OVER 1000 FAMILIES HAVE ALREADY CHOSEN OUR CEREMONIES

We believe that the thousands of couples choosing the secular marriage, will promote the legal changes that will enable the state to subsidize secular weddings in an equal way to the orthodox ones.

Who we are

TEKES is an independent website that promotes secular Israeli ceremonies in Israel and abroad. Ceremonies are conducted by carefuly chosen, trained and experienced masters of ceremonies. They all have higher academic degrees in the Social Sciences and the Arts and former experience in educational or cultural projects. They are selected for their interpersonal skills, charismatic personality and their ability to speak to audiences and conduct ceremonies. All of them are of course profoundly acquainted both with Jewish sources and traditions and contemporary Israeli culture.

NEW: We offer wedding ceremonies in Israel and abroad.


Legal Aspects

TEKES aims to provide Israelis with free access to their Jewish culture. The holding of life ceremonies in Israel is not counter to any law and is dependent solely on the wishes of the celebrants and participants. We are confident that in the long term, positive legal recognition will come for many of these ceremonials after they have been adopted by a critical mass of secualr Jewish Israelis.

Circumcision: Israeli Law does not make circumcision obligatory, and there is no relation in the State of Israel between circumcision and the recognition of males as Jewish.

Bat/r Mitzva: There has been no legislation in Israel regarding the bat or bar mitzvah ceremonies, therefore these do not pose a legal issue.

Wedding Ceremonies: Secular weddings are Jewish in all respects. Hundreds and thousands of such ceremonies have been held in the last few years in Israel. All have Huppa and Kiddushin (marriage vows), and are respected and appreciated by the wedding guests. The State of Israel recognises only orthodox marriages of Jewish couples, or civil marriages held abroad. In order to register for marriage in the State of Israel and to receive the benefits (such as mortgage rights), it is necessary to marry abroad (Cyprus, Italy, the United States of America, or even the Dominican Republic are common targets) by civil marriage and then to register as married at the Ministry of Interior's office. A great advantage of not registering for civil marriage, is the fact that in that way income tax allowances are better for singles (especially advantageous for independent income earners). In the event of divorce, Jewish couples (according to orthodox law, it has to be a "strict" decree), in the absence of civil process are obliged to divorce through the Rabbinate in order to be registered as divorced and not be at risk of charges of bigamy. If one of a couple is not recognised as Jewish (by the orthodox law) divorce is not through the Rabbinate but by the High Court granting annulment of the marriage, or alternatively to divorce abroad, a lengthy and complicated process. Legal advice can be obtained through us or through The Forum for Free Choice in Marriage 02 6796272, website: www.freemarriage.org.il

Children: Jewish law recognizes all children born to a Jewish mother as Jewish and thus all children born to Jewish couples will be Jewish by Jewish law, even though their parents were married by secular ceremonies.

Burial: We do not conduct burial ceremonies and we recommend "Aley Shalechet". Find more information at: www.aleyshalechet.co.il
Secular burial is permitted in Israel in cemetaries of some Kibbutzim, Moshavim and in the Secular Cemetary in Beersheba. Secular cemetaries have as yet not been established elsewhere in Israel. However, the Mayor of Jerusalem has recently (January 2008) declared that he intends to license a secular cemetary in Jerusalem.



To order your ceremony contact us:
E-mail:
office@tekes.co.il
Or call: +972 2 6738103